In my last post I did not take into account the very likely truth that TLC is either behind much of the drama portrayed in their family, whipping it up to more than it need be, or else cleverly editing the video clips to show stern looks and eye rolls out of context, as well as leaving out parts of the story that wouldn’t fit the network’s vision for the show. If several independent, intelligent, free-thinking women all choose to get married and stay married to the same man, that should actually make me think, “Wow! Joshua and I had never talked about it before, but I opened the conversation with: “So, Joshua, are you going to marry Melissa?” His answer: “Well, I don’t know.” My shocked reply: “What do you mean you don’t know?
YOU SINCERELY DO NOT NEED TO WORRY ABOUT THIS. This is a good and natural desire, and concern, for a woman to have – to want to please her future spouse. The family is a pretty big group, I would say about 85 people, and almost all of them are active LDS.
When I’m around those people, I will either hide my polygamy or at the very least I feel an overarching sense of embarrassment/shame about it, like the girl who keeps brushing her bangs in front of the zit on her forehead. When it comes to laws and rules, it is not right to hold someone hostage with a fuzzy, ill-defined, gray area that may change in shape or scope with the whims of emotion.
That was a very nice moment for me.
Well, sort of.
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The Snowdens talk a lot about doing things together – which is good, but if they are truly keen on family unity, then they ought to be including, as far as possible, the potential new family member. I had a variety of houseguests. I’m proud of Joshua for so many reasons. Sometimes children can settle their disputes on their own, and that’s always nice for a parent to see, and that is certainly ideal, but when the children can’t come to a resolution on their own, and the argument is dragging on and even escalating, the parent needs to intercede (see Mosiah 4:14-15). As far as she knew, she was playing by the rules – since Dimitri was the representative of the Snowden Family. Their agreement was no sexual intimacy before commitment (a.k.a. Certainly this is not all they bring, but it is a significant part of what they bring, and this is every bit as true in monogamy as it is in polygamy. Furthermore, Dimitri had apparently not talked to Joselyn about what happened on their date. And she got used to being a plural wife. Our husband will no longer need duplicates of so many things.
Melissa and I will live together, but each of us will have our own part of the house, our own front door, our own master bedroom, our own kitchen. Plural marriage puts you in impossible situations sometimes; situations where it is impossible to please everyone, or even most of the people. ( Log Out /
He must be a remarkable husband to be able to keep that many women happy!”.
When it comes to laws and rules, it is not right to hold someone hostage with a fuzzy, ill-defined, gray area that may change in shape or scope with the whims of emotion. She wants to gain the attention/attraction/affection of a man who already has a wife, and who is (presumably) already having sex. Does Jerry Seinfeld have Parkinson's disease? While I lived there I went from 1 child to 3 children and began homeschooling.
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However, those feelings of shame or embarrassment are left over from when I cared what those people thought. Not what social media would have you believe. I’m actually quite proud of my plural family and in particular of my husband. Enter your email address to follow this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email. But honestly, I cringe when I see the Brineys’ interactions with one another on TV. Doing otherwise probably won’t be good for anyone. Not that these things are required for a relationship to progress, but they are normal, healthy, and acceptable behaviors. I say bologna. I’d rather get to the good news. I’m proud of him for functioning on 2 hours of sleep when one of his wives needs to talk with him all night. I was in living that house when my belief system about the LDS Church crumbled (although I stayed an active member for a number of years). This is definitely a large hurdle for the McGees and a challenge she has to personally deal with. He’s been like an unlucky stepchild, constantly going back-and-forth between two houses. I look at Joshua as a king and Melissa as a queen, and yesterday I felt no shame or embarrassment whatsoever.
It reminds me of the very good rule the Snowdens laid down in the first episode of this season.
Over the last 5 years, all of us have had more difficulties than I care to list right now. I also feel like I need to give some props to Bernie here. Two of our children don’t even remember life before their father was a polygamist. Certainly this is not all they bring, but it is a significant part of what they bring, and this is every bit as true in monogamy as it is in polygamy.
Change ), You are commenting using your Google account. Noun. What was she supposed to say? If you invite someone to come play a game with you, and they accept the invitation, but only you know the rules, who should initiate a conversation about the rules of the game?
I could understand limiting things in a second courtship if it was a mistake in the first courtship (like Dimitri. We had been invited by some polygamous friends to a Thanksgiving dinner that was attended by an eclectic group of fundamental Mormons (some were members of a sect of Mormonism, but many were independent).
I felt like a queen. The material on this site can not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except with prior written permission of Multiply.
I’m not ashamed to be a polygamist. About ten years ago, my husband and I bought our first house together. It is nothing to criticize, or belittle, and it is not strange or creepy. How is she to know what to talk about? In other words, keep it private between you and the new, or potential, wife; especially when the relationship is so new. I think the whole thing was blown entirely out of proportion. It will not, in general, improve the situation – very likely it will make it worse.
And indeed, he should have stepped up, and opened a conversation about what happened. I wish.
How long will the footprints on the moon last? emotion that has to be dealt with by most plural families, but Paige’s worries go even farther.
See here for my continuation of this post. Drew and all good plural husbands are much more involved in settling disputes, and counseling with their wives, than could ever be shown on television. H, t’s no secret that one of the things women bring to, sex-appeal.
And whose responsibility is it? I didn’t feel like I was inferior to any of the monogamists in the room.
Ashley told Dimitri that he was allowed to think Vanessa is beautiful, and he was allowed to tell her she was beautiful, but he just wasn’t allowed to act on it. Should that announcement come from Joselyn?
When did organ music become associated with baseball? This is a good and natural desire, and concern, for a woman to have – to want to please her future spouse (and good men are concerned about pleasing their spouse(s) as well). Why would multiple women choose to be married to a creep? What an amazing woman she is! I love all the Brineys, my wives love them, and my children love their children. It does seem like Drew is becoming more involved, at least in talking one-on-one with the wives about their problems, and that has been good to see. But I’m not sure that apologizing for non-offenses every time they arise is going to be a sustainable long-term solution to the problem.
Hopefully, it’s no secret that one of the things women bring to a relationship is sex-appeal.
None of them are excited that we’re polygamists, and many of them openly disapprove (even writing letters and making phone calls to make sure we know how they feel).
She thinks she will also be jealous about her children’s time and affection for the new wife (this is in the first episode).
I don’t see what is the problem here. I live in a house with several separate apartments, all connected on the inside. I’m talking about the situation in which a single woman who has freedom makes the decision to marry and stay married to a man with plural wives.
Ashley complains that Joselyn did not talk to her about being intimate with Dimitri, but I never saw Ashley initiate any conversations about it either! Ashley told Dimitri that he was allowed to think Vanessa is beautiful, and he was allowed to tell her she was beautiful, but he just wasn’t allowed to act on it. She did not know what Dimitri and Ashley had already talked about (or even if they had talked about it).
If you are 13 years old when were you born? “Sending me away would be a greater wrong than what you have already done to me.”. From what was shown, I would say he handled things very well. Having said all that, I do not think it is a good policy to expect one wife to mediate the arguments between other bickering wives. At the time, I didn’t know any polygamists in person. The children will get to see their Baba and their other mother daily. marriage), which is an excellent rule to abide by. Ano ang Imahinasyong guhit na naghahati sa daigdig sa magkaibang araw? I had a variety of Church callings and a good selection of friends and friendly neighbors.
He was a very wise man. I bought furniture.
I’m proud of him for his wisdom in difficult decisions. And she and I get to begin a new phase of our relationship. As a result, she may feel like she needs to assure him that she will also be sexually pleasing. We went to a party for Joshua’s aunts, uncles, and cousins. if it is not sinful, or prohibited by some agreement between spouses, then there should be no attempt to make the parties feel guilty over it.
I’m not speaking of institutionalized underage marriages that are compelled by the cult leadership. Beyond this, if it is not sinful, or prohibited by some agreement between spouses, then there should be no attempt to make the parties feel guilty over it. Change ), You are commenting using your Facebook account. It was a wonderful experience and certainly made me feel as tho I have progressed in my journey as a plural wife.
Example: Both of her late husbands' estates were considerable. I also gave birth in one of the bedrooms upstairs. Melissa has now lived in that house longer than I ever lived in it. I wonder if she will feel even more jealousy when the dogs end up liking the new wife as well? No, if a man successfully keeps more than one woman satisfied, he must be an extraordinary man, and he very likely works hard to serve his wives. She wants to gain the attention/attraction/affection of a man who already has a wife, and who is (presumably) already having sex. This (Paige snooping thru Bernie’s messages) actually seems like a much bigger breach of trust to me, than Bernie’s handling of the sexting. I guess another way of saying this is that Paige should not be berating Bernie ex post facto. What is the hink-pink for blue green moray? And I can’t even count the number of times he’s needed something but has turned up empty-handed because the tool or other item was in a different county.
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